I have never met an excellent family that got that way accidently.  Sometimes I hear someone say how “lucky” someone is to have the husband or orderly children that they have.  There’s no luck to it.  Strong marriages come to those who want it and order their lives around it.  You sacrifice time, energy and money. You cut out TV and busyness.  You make daily choices to die to yourself and put each other first.  YOu hold your tongue.  You work through your emotions and choose to live in grace and forgiveness.  You control your words so that you only speak what is edifying.  You rebuke yourself for whining or complaining and determine each day to be a positive, engaged person adding value to your family.  That’s how it happens.  Everyone can have a strong marriage if they will pay the price.