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This entire year has blurred by with so much responsibility
and busyness… the first 5 months were
spent setting up house in a new country where we could not speak the language…holding a conference in Cambodia….3 trips back to Manila…back to Atlanta for a missions festival and then to PA take care of my dad. CQ to a board meeting in NZ etc…then we did have our month of rest in June, PTL! then to America for Andrew’s wedding…2 days later to our Jamaica church for their 25th…back to Cleveland to get girls registered to school and on shopping for school 3 days later to South Africa for CQ to teach every day for 8 days (i with a broken foot) then back to my folks for 3 weeks of caring for my dad then to Israel and Istanbul then back and on the road every weekend visiting churches not to mention keeping house and kids and all the activities involved in that…then to PA again for 2 weeks of caring for my dad in Oct…..and every weekend we were doing road trips to raise funds…..

Then back for a weekend bash of brooke’s bday first weekend of nov with about 15 extra teens in the house…..then to Emmanuel college for a week of spiritual emphasis that CQ and i did…then back to do a complete hysterectomy…We had a house full of company staying over for the next 2 months …..3 days after surgery back on the road for 8 hours to Alabama for dental work (free!) and to speak in a church. then back for thanksgiving then to a supporting church in Westminister Maryland and then to my parents for the last two weeks of caring for my dad……then funeral arrangements and taking care of my mom….and 8 hours after doing my dad’s viewing and memorial service i was driving me and my mom 11 hours to get to cleveland for Kristin’s speaking at her commisioning service. CQ came down with the stomach virus for the weekend and i had to put him on quarantine after Kris spoke ……Kristin’s graduation the next am..which CQ missed due to very sick…..then two weeks prep for Christmas which i was far behind on…plus a house full of company the entire time…..

That’s just a little detail about a few months. It is clear that we need to slow our pace in the coming months. We will return to Tennessee from April till the end of August ton complete our fundraising for the next two years and hopefully to get some needed down time.

On the Passing of My Dad

i had a really difficult time the first month after dad passed away…i had a heavy feeling of guilt and regret…..i was the one who found dad…that was hard…i wanted so badly for him to “wake up” even just for a short while so i could tell him what a good dad he had been to me and how much i
loved him etc. the last couple times i was there to take care of my dad i was so frustrated with him! He had become so “mean” and demanding toward my mom…..my mom was at her emotional end etc…..so i was very firm with him most of the time caring for him and continued to try to convince him that he had to be nicer to mom
and appreciate her etc etc…..that last week i particularly just took care of him (which i always loved doing….but….yet i was so upset with him for how ungrateful and demanding he was being) by the
end of the evening i would be so exasperated with him i remember telling chuck i didnt even want to pray with him when i tucked him in and most of those nights i didn’t….:O(

i would talk to myself and tell myself….but Jesus would have patiently endured and would have done the “right thing” i in turn was just ready to “get to myself” and relax for a few hours….the last few days before he died i hardly slept…he had a stomach virus which gave him diarrhea and i was up most all night and all through the day trying to get him on the pot by his bed before he messed the bed…..cleaned him up quite a few times …had been sick myself and then my mom got sick too so I put her to
bed….it was a very stressful week….much to my regret i did not “love on him” as i should have…..i did the necessary things which was mostly all day and night but i didnt go the extra mile and love on him like i know he needed and would have wanted…..it “killed me” that i didn’t and still i so regret that i didnt…..as i write this it brings me back to tears and longings….i dont know if i can ever let go of this…..for sure i will not let this happen again to any
of my loved ones no matter how “unlovable” they become in their actions…..

i could tell my dad was so lonely yet he would continue
to be so very difficult toward his caregiver…..my sister said
something during our time of sharing at his memorial…she said “those who are most unlovable need the most love” ….and she also said…..”dad’s spirit died a few years ago” i do believe that is what happened when he realized he was not getting his mobility and independence back….he could have done and had so much more (and that was what would frustrate me too if I was in that place….) Dad had a very strong will and through years and hours of hard work and determination (i know coz i was with him most all of that time) he could have gone places and done more….but he sank low and i believe he just gave up…..yet in a way still wanted to live and be in control of his oh-so-tiny world…i believe that was why he was so very very very difficult most of the time….

After a five year battle with seizures, brain surgery and e Sam Smith died in his sleep last night.  For the past three years Sherry has been shuttling back and forth from our family to his bedside to help her mom in the backbreaking work of caring for him at home.  Though Sam’s condition had greatly worsened in the past year and he had become an incredibly difficult patient, Sherry and Audrey ignored appeals to hospitalize him & continued to care for him at home until the very end.  Before his illness Sam had been characterized by his outgoing, mischievous nature and his immense love of people.

Funeral services will be held in Pennsylvania on Thursday.  For the past week, Sam, Sherry, and Audrey had all been suffering from a stomach virus and Sherry is still recovering from surgery a month ago, so please pray for a restoration of health and spirit for both Sherry and Audrey and for wisdom to handle legal matters.

Thanks to all those who have been praying for Sherry about this matter for the past years.  We deeply appreciate it.

i just received this email  on my facebook from a young lady in Jamaica…shelly vernon…..so sweet…thot i would share it with you…

have to bring you back in time and see if I can spark a memory… I was a little girl maybe 6 or 7 years old… I was in both your Kids praise… I had a solo part for In His Time and for I Love you Lord… I was called Shelly Vernon and I had an older brother by the name of Richard (he refused to sing a solo part  :-) ) 

I feel so blessed to be able to finally tell you just how much of an impact God used you to make on my life… I have never forgotten you, your kindness and the love of Jesus you showed to all of us… After you and your family left for the Philippines my parents moved from Mandeville and we stopped going to church… My life changed drastically for the worse because my teenage and college years I avoided church.. I never forget the little lessons you taught in kids church.. I am now 30 years old and I could tell you a few lessons I remember… The Good news is the seeds God used you to plant might have went dormant for a while but they never died… 6 years ago I came back home (like the prodigal son) I am happy to tell you that I am back in church… This is the funny part… I am the Church Secretary, Missions Coordinator and I also volunteer in the Youth Ministry… I have had the deepest desire lately to actually do a Kids Praise with a hope to somehow touch a life like how God used you to touch mine. I Love you! and Thank you for your Obedience to Our Father… Can we keep in touch?

Food for thought. Your comments please…

About Suicide
The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that each year approximately one million people die from suicide, which represents a global mortality rate of 16 people per 100,000 or one death every 40 seconds. It is predicted that by 2020 the rate of death will increase to one every 20 seconds.

The WHO further reports that:

In the last 45 years suicide rates have increased by 60% worldwide. Suicide is now among the three leading causes of death among those aged 15-44 (male and female). Suicide attempts are up to 20 times more frequent than completed suicides.

Although suicide rates have traditionally been highest amongst elderly males, rates among young people have been increasing to such an extent that they are now the group at highest risk in a third of all countries.